by Ernest Quansah
Show me your relationship blueprint and I will accurately predict what kind of relationship you are going to end up in. A few months ago, a group of scientists and researchers found that people who wanted to lose weight did not want to hear the best method for losing weight, mainly diet and exercise. What diet and exercise does is it keeps your body functioning at its optimum.
Unfortunately the researchers found that people wanted to be told what they wanted to hear, mainly the quickest way to take the pounds off or a quick fix. Ask yourself, would it make sense to gain 50 lbs over a 1 year period and yet expect to lose the same amount of weight by the end of a weekend?
Telling people what they want to hear is no different than misleading them. The worst part is how can a person who cares about your success mislead you by telling you what you want to hear? Would you agree that misleading a person is no different from lying? If you are misled or lied to, whom do you think is being cheated? If you are misled or given incorrect information because that is what you would rather hear can you expect good results?
I am sure you know that at least 90% of people who use quick fix methods to lose weight gain double the weight back in a short time. When that happens who’s loss is it? The choice is up to you. Please understand. When someone corrects you, it is not because the person is telling you how you should live your life. A person corrects you because the person has your best interests at heart and wants you to succeed.
It is absolutely imperative that you know and understand why people seek relationships. The knowledge will help you determine if you have the same interest as the person who wants you or if you may have to forgo the love interest.
Relationships Can Be Broken Down Into Categories:
Wayside relationships: these are relationships that offer quick fixes. Primarily a person will tell you what you want hear, ask you out in order to get what he or she wants. After the person gets what he or she wanted, the person leaves you. While it is sad, I’m sure many of you have been through that experience.
Stony relationships: these are relationships that are very difficult. They feel like planting seeds on a rocky hill. These seeds could never take root. These are the kinds of relationships where you find yourself trying and trying to make it work again and again, without avail. They are unhealthy relationship and may do more damage than good.
Thorny relationships: when you are in these kinds of relationships, it feels like you are in constant emotional pain. These kinds of relationships will leave you feeling unhappy and insecure. You may even find that you must constantly keep yourself up, in order to please your partner in exchange for conditional love. Avoid these relationships, as they will only provide you with continuous sadness and frustration.
Interracial relationships: Interracial relationships are becoming more and more common. This is because many people have found that there is no guarantee that they will find their appropriate partner within their own race. To succeed in an interracial relationship, there are specific things you must know. Interracial relationships do work if you know what to do.
Fertile relationships: these are soulmate relationships. Farmers plant their seeds in fertile soil because they know the seeds will take root, grow and produce bountiful fruit. Soulmate relationships are relationships that have good strong foundations. They are the very best relationships you can ever have. In this matter there is absolutely no debate. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Keep in mind that 80% of people believe they have soulmates – while the same 80% confess that they would not be able to recognize their soulmate if they were standing in front of them.
MY SUGGESTION: Please review this article and decide what you want to do. Remember that when you settle for a quick fix, that is what you get. If you settle for a life’s mate, that is what you get. If you invest the time to find your soulmate, a person whom you will find the most happiness with, it is you who reaps the benefits. You have a real choice now. Choose The Right. Good Luck.
Ernest Quanah is a Relationship Advisor-friendship coach. He is the founder of Soulmate Infoserve, an online Relationship Advice Service and author of “How To Identify Your Soulmate” an online relationship and dating advice manual designed for singles to find successful relationship, couples and interracial lovers to succeed. For Powerful Relationship Advice visit www.soulmateinfoserve.com Copyright 2003. All Rights Reserved.